Did you know I have a poetry chapbook about what it’s like to have (and be healed from) depression? Here’s a poem about what healthy boundaries look like.
This is my pile
And that is yours.
The short definition
I never understood
Until recently, that is,
Why Robert Frost said,
“Good fences make good neighbors”.
But, really, if someone is trying
To shovel their stuff
(that they need to deal with)
Onto your personal space,
Well, you make the fence
As high as you need to.
Not to keep them out,
So much as it is to
Corral your serenity in.
After all, you have your own stuff to deal with.
They may ask you to loan them money.
But if they are irresponsible, don’t.
They may ask you to lie for them.
No one should be asked to do that.
They may want you to do their work for them.
They may ask you to cover for them.
The fence is made out of two letters:
N and O: No.
“Good fences make good neighbors,”
Especially if your neighbor
I determined to spill his or her
Toxic waste dump
Into your yard.
Find the whole collection here, and give it to someone who has a loved one with depression, or buy it for yourself so that you will feel understood.